Hi, This is my 1st time to actually do something about feeling so disillusioned with the whole TTC saga. Myself and my husband have been trying for the last 2&1/2 years, had 2 miscarriages and it's been just over a year since the last miscarriage. Am on chlomid and going for a laparoscopy in mid June. I am going through my low period which I go through every month while TTC and just get so angry/bitter and jealous of all my friends who are now getting preg. 2nd and 3rd time and I just feel left behind. Of course added to that is my age, I am 35 and worried about the ticking clock. Am considering acupuncture to help me through my increasing negativity as each month passes. Anyone know what I'm feeling or got any tips?

hi Duffs,

I have had three miscarriages and i know exactly how heartbreaking they can be. Although our difficulties are different i hope i can give you a little hope. My friend was put on Chlomid after her doctors told her that she would most likely never concieve and she is now pregnant. she believes that accupunture and reflexology along with teh medication were the reasons why she began to ovulate and could get pregnant. she is so knowledgable about the whole thing that i don't really understand what she's talking about half the time. but the natural therapies had something to do with stimulating her petuitory galnd (thats not spelt correctly!) to help ovulation. in fact it was a reflexology session that drew her attention to the endometrious (again not spelt right!!!!) in the first place. so give it a go and you've nothing to loose and everything to gain.

Good luck,

Dee.

Hi Duffs,

I am really sorry to hear that you are down in the dumps but I can totally relate to how you are feeling.  My husband and I started trying immediately after we got married (big mistake! if it doesn't work out it every wedding anniversary makes you feel more and more miserable!).  Anyway after four years of trying and one natural conception and miscarriage along the way we finally hit the jackpot on our first IVF cycle.  Although we were really lucky and weren't on the infertility roller coaster for as long as some other people I know, I found that the whole process really, really got me down.  Although I got a lot of support from attending the NISIG meetings I felt I wasn't coping well with the whole thing and in the end I decided to go see a counselor.  I only went to see her for three months but it was the best thing I ever did.  Facing infertility is such a terrible experience and I needed space to talk it through with someone and in the process to think out my feelings.  After doing this the realization dawned that yes I was having a bad time, yes it is unfair, after all it seems that every teenager in Dublin is pregnant (no they aren't but that is how I felt at the time) but that I would cope if the worse happened and I never had a biological child of my own.  I know it sounds silly but deep down I had convinced myself that I wouldn't be able to cope and that all of the other good things in my like - my marriage, my relationship with my sisters who have children would fall apart as a result - an realizing that this wasn't the case was a bid comfort.  I think that if you are feeling really bad you should also consider doing the same thing.  or if you feel this isn't the right thing for you by all means to to visit an acupuncturist.  The most important thing is to look after yourself during this difficult time.  Best to luck to you, I really hope your treatment works out.