Hello... This is my first time using an internet support group, sorry if I say something wrong or ask a stupid question, but this is all very new and pretty scary to be honest. Myself and my husband have been trying to conceive for over a year. He was sent for semen analysis. The first sample didn't have enough volume so he gave another and we got the results yesterday. Basically the volume was still very low and there were no sperm present. We are both pretty devastated to be honest, and the G.P. wasn't particularly helpful about what to do next. My husband is going to see him for a full check up next week. I want us to be able to ask him all the right questions but I don't even know what they are. What do we do next and where do we go? I feel I need to get checked too as I have very irregular periods. If we need a referal to a clinic where do we ask for? We live in Dublin so I know there are lots of places around but which is the best? Any advice would be really gratefully received. I kind of feel like we are in the middle of a really bad movie, it doesn't feel real yet and I don't really know what to do except lie on the couch and bawl my eyes out. Sorry, I know this sounds really depressing but I'm so heartbroken especially for my gorgeous husband. I know lots of you have had awful hard days too and hopefully will understand where I'm coming from. Anyway I'm going to post this now before I chicken out. Thanks, E.

Hi Cats,

Thanks a million for your reply, I really appreciate it. We are feeling a bit better now but it's all still pretty daunting. I think going to the meetings would be a good plan. Where are they held? Thanks again,

Eims.

Hi Eims, so sorry to see what all you are dealing with   It  is devastating.  It helps to get it out there doesn't it, though?  And there are plenty of people who understand what you are going through and who can identify with the situation you're in.  I hope you get a referral soon and that you don't have to wait too long for an appointment.  The clinics are far better than a GP for dealing with these issues and discussing what your options might be.  My GP asks me the questions these days!

It is daunting and overwhelming and also it takes a major adjustment to get to grips with this new situation ... but with the right support and information, you could make headway soon.  I hope you get to a meeting soon or speak to someone on the helpline and get to finding what your next steps are.  Good luck.