Hi Eims,
I just read you first post. Myself and my husband are in exactly the same situation as you. We only found out last week that the only likely chance of conceiving is through IVF. I am still in shock. I have never been to one of the meetings but am definitely going to the next one in Dublin on Nov 7th. My husband is coming with me, reluctantly! He doesn't know what do expect. I really feel I need to talk to people who are going through the same thing. Some days I am great and others I feel so down. Everywhere you look are babies and pregnant women! Trust me not to be able to conceive during a baby boom! Anyway hope you are OK. Just know you are not alone. Hopefully will get to meet you at meeting. Be good to yourself and your husband. x
Hi Eims and Maebh,
Just want to agree with Cats and Caitriona, it's a huge shock to get, it's a really fundamental thing and you're entitled to feel a whole range of emotions. I didn't know there were so many ways to feel bad until I got diagnosed with fertility problems...What helps the most is talking with other people who understand. The Nisig meetings are a wonderful, safe space where you can share and vent and get good advice. Also it's something you and your partner can do together, which can ease the stress of discussing it no end. I think it really helps the men in particular. Us girls will always figure out some kind of grapevine or network but the men tend not to have the same support systems. Also if you join up with Nisig you will get the newsletters, which are great. One of the hardest things I found was dealing with other people's thoughtless comments which can be very hurtful when you are feeling extra sensitive - it really made me realise how much the ability to have children is taken for granted. I don't know anything about the Dublin clinics as I'm in cork, but there's a lot of threads for the different ones on the rollercoaster.ie website (Discussions-Fertility Issues and Trying to Conceive.)
All the best
Ger
Hi Maebh, I hope your husband and you both benefit from the meeting on Nov 7th. I feel sure you will! My husband has been to a couple of meetings with me and I think it was helpful that he saw other women saying the same 'crazy' things that I had been saying (I felt I was going crazy but here was a roomful of people finding exactly the same things hard to take). And like Geraldine says, it can be good for men to have a forum to get some support themselves too.
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