Hi Char and Eims - sending you both a huge virtual hug - it is awful going through what you're facing at the moment, finding out that your only chance of conceiving is via IVF.  No-one thinks it will happen to them!  And yes indeed, pregnancy and birth annoucements seem to wait until that very moment to spring out upon you   It's a nightmare.  Also very difficult when family / friends try to help but more often than not seem to end up saying the worst thing.  It feels like you get very isolated and lonely in your miserable situation. 

I found huge comfort in websites like this one - I don't know what people did in this situation before the internet came along!  It was a lifesaver to find other people in a similar situation. And then another breakthrough was finding the NISIG meetings and meeting real life people going through something similar.  That truly was my turning point so I second what Cats says and urge you to phone the helpline and get to whatever meeting you can manage.  I just found it so refreshing and reassuring to hear other people say the things that I had been thinking (and had been worried that meant I was going mad) and also to be able to laugh with other people about the dreadful things that people say.  You couldn't laugh with anyone else about it, only people who know what it's like to go through this situation.

Char, as for the Hari, I attended there and found them to be wonderful.  Now, I'm not one of their success stories (but I did end up with a baby in the end  in another clinic) but I would recommend the Hari and the care they give.  And certainly there are plenty of people who have success early on so don't think it's always the case that people have to do high numbers of cycles.  I wasn't one of those, but lots do get lucky on the first or second cycle.

Good luck - keep in touch.

Hi Ciara,

Sorry I only logged on and saw your message tonight, I hope you check back in to the site! It takes time to come to terms with that kind of news and in some ways, the wait to see doctor is good because it gives you time to research and figure out what you need to know - write down all your queries, don't worry that they are silly or simple,  it's all new to you. the other thing you can do is start working on a health plan for you and your husband - it's important to get yourselves in the best shape possible if you are facing ivf and it's something positive to focus on. There are lots of good books on the subject (there's a thread for book reviews on this site) but don't drive yourself mad with it either - the odd bar of choc or glass of wine is good therapy!  simple things like getting out for walks together can really help clear the head and gives you both a quiet space to talk and listen to each other. I'm afraid I don't know anything about endo, my probs were fibroids and blocked tubes but I would say that at least your age is in your favour and you're right not to hang about. Lastly, the Nisig people are brilliant, and a mine of information, so ring that helpline or get to a meeting if possible, there's no need to be nervous, everyone there has been through their own personal hell of fertility problems and will understand.

Best of luck

Ger