This is my first post ever on one of these things so havent a clue how they work.....

Im new to this but just from reading some of the posts I see that there are many many women and couples going through the same thing.  All my friends either have babies or are not in a relationship so not thinking of babies so am finding it hard to relate. My partner is the most supportive person ever and love him to bits but I do worry that it jsut gets all too much for us and I feel like my live has been suspended and will be until we have a baby or, and this is the hardest thing to thing about....we come to terms with the fact that we might not have children in our lives. 

Just been for hospital appt to get HSG results and everything was fine. Have had bloods and follicle tracking which were all fine. Have been prescribed clomid for next few months and have appt in April to talk about IVF. Im delighted that all tests were fine but as I will be 40 this year Im devastated that IVF is the only thing that they can offer me which has a small rate of success and even smaller at my age. Im finding it really hard to cope and feel this is the beginning of the end of our fertility journey.

I am finding the hospital system very hard to deal with. Sent my first referral letter to Rotunda only to get an appointment for almost a year later. Tried Holles St but they just arrange appointments so you can make another appointment for a test and then another appointment for the results. Has anyone any advice on HARI or Holles St?   

Would really welcome any advice or to hear from someone in the same situation.

Hi Daisy,

Sounds like you have been busy. First of all you have taking your first steps.

All the feels are very similar to what I felt. I can understand too, I found it difficult waiting to get appointment at the ferility clinic. I attended the Hari Clinic. ( it was a few years back) I found everybody very nice and professional through out our journey. I ended up doing Donor Egg in Spain and delighted to say we had twins. ( i have  early menopause and dignosed at 30)

The advise I would be the same as Pauline. Come along to NISIG meetings. Thats were I found the people who really understood and helped us both so much. Also give the support line a call too. Some how you find the strength, some days will be good and others not so. Remember you are not alone.

Keep us posted. How you are doing

Take care

Hugs

Cats

Hi Daisydays

Glad the message helps. I didn't do accupture (fear of needles)  but I think anything that helps your relax and take time out for yourself must be good. The NISIG Donor Conception meeting in Dublin this weekend there is a talk by Sandro Graca on the benefits of acupture.

If you can make it, ring the helpline to get details of were and when.

It's informal meeting and a cuppa.

I'm going to the meeting.  Hope to meet you

Hugs Cats