Hi All,

I'm hoping that some of you have sucess stories to share.  We are due to start our 3rd round of IVF and I'm feeling so low at the moment at the thoughts of having to go through it all again with no guarantee at the end that I need to hear some good news stories.  I'm feeling a lot worse this time round than our first failed cycle, don't know why.  I was so positive all during this cycle, I took acupuncture and just felt sure it was going to work so you can imagine how devasted it was to have a negative result at the end.  I just can't seem to get out of this hole of sadness.  Anyhow, any happy stories of sucess on the 3rd cycle would be much appreciated.

Thanks for listening and good luck to you all on your journey xx

Covie, I am about to start the stimulation meds for our 3rd round of IVF as well, with our own "produce". I am not low at all like you are. Opposite, I feel like I am ready for this to work, but if it does not, then I will try IVF with donor eggs. Having a child is not the only thing in life. It sure feels like it is the most important piece we are missing sometimes, but I tell you what, I work in healthcare and I see sick children every day. I work with them. I also see the pains in their parents' eyes when they are around. While they bring a lot of joy, they can be very handful and bring a lot of sadness as well. Do not think that just cause you had 2 trials and they did not work, this last one will not. There is no guarantee that it will, but you can have another trial, and another. The question is where and when do you stop. I baffled this for a year, and finally my husband and I decided that if this 3rd trial does not work, we are going to try one more with donor eggs. I've even picked a clinic already. It is in Europe. But I am praying I will not have to use it. Take time between trials, go on vacation, get your life busy with something, rest... you might feel better. It could be just the hormones talking right now and bringing you down... I am starting my stimulation meds tomorrow, and will take whatever it comes, cause for me I've realized that life does not end if this trial ends with BFN. I've heard many success stories of ladies having done IVF 3, 4 & 5 times. I know ladies that were successive from the 1st try. I was down and said when I did not have any viable embryos left to transfer after our 1st IVF. I was less sad after the 2nd trial. Now, if the 3rd one does not work, I will not be sad. I will get ready to proceed with donor eggs...

Dear Covie

I know how you feel. We had 3 rounds of iui the first cancelled due to over response so when we started ivf and our first cycle was cancelled due to poor response I was devasted how could I go from over responding in March to poor respose in August to make matters worse an  "all smoking drinking" friend texted me to tell me she was pregnant she had just married 2 months previously.I felt the unfairness of it all I had read all the books ate the right foods etc why was nature letting me down. We had a second attempt which aslo had a poor response with only one blastocyte for transfer from the moment  the clinic had rang to tell us fertilization report on day one I wanted to ask them to say hello to our babies and keep them safe I knew before testing it hadnot worked and like you I had done accupunture ,ate pineapples kept my feet warm any hint I could find on fertility web sites. We are now going for egg donation and We are both very excited but nervous at the same time. A little bit of says I am sure it will work but I realize there are no guarentes You put alot of time and effort into ivf both physically and emotionally and its ok to grieve for the baby you had dreamt of and had imagined. There are so many options out there when our second ivf failed we knew that door was closed to us but another one opened and we can once again hope and dream of our unborn child. Be good to yourself and remember you are not alone I have only joined the group recently and attended one meeting but to be in a room where every one was supportive plus imformative was one of the best things we have done to date on our ferttility journey.