Hi,

I was diagnosed with Breast Cancer two months before I was due to get married.  I'm now finished all treatment and getting ready for my annual checkup. 

Before I started treatment, I had very little time to decide on whether to freeze embryo's or not, the Fertility Centre couldn't give me any stats on the rate of breast cancer recurring because of it down the line.  At that time, I was on an emotional rollercoaster, I had no idea what was ahead of me and made the decision not to go ahead with it.

As of now, I'm showing as in chemical menopause but would like to start down the adoption route (I need to be 5 years clear to be able to adopt).  The problem I now face is that my husband is having a hard time coming around to the idea.  He has said that he doesn't think he can love someone elses child.  I can't seem to get him to open his mind to adoption at all.  We have attended a meeting with the HSE but to be honest, I didn't find it very helpful and also, not very positive.

I'm just not sure where to go from here. I do in my mind think he will eventually come around to the idea but its getting him there is the problem.  He is fantastic with my almost 4 year old niece who spends a lot of time with us.  I can see he would be a great family man but its getting him to realise he can love someone elses child is the hard part.

I'm just wondering if anyone else out there has had a similar experience with their husband?

Thank you,

Sunshine.