i am at the beginning of a long journey. My partner is infertile. I am 24 and struggling with this news. we have decided our best option, for us, is donar sperm and will look at adoption after we are married(as i understand you have to be married). My own G.p doesnt seems to have an awful lot of information for us to help. we have our first apt in merrion the end of may- im looking forward to someone telling me its OK and THEY CAN HELP. because i am sooo scared and dont know who to talk to. i feel like i cant breath. i cant breath.

all i ever wanted was a baby. my fiance is heartbroken and i dont know what action to take. i am working fulltime, this is very very difficult. i dont know how much longer i can cope. and can i cope when i am having treatments?? so many questions i have and no answers. My sister has 2 children and another one on the way- it hurts so bad. it hurts becos i want it so bad but hurts more because i despise myself for resenting them. when they laugh and play i cry.

is there any easy options out of this? No i doubt there is. but can someone please help me and offer any sort of advise. i need to feel like i am doing something to fix this. everyday that goes by without me taking action feels like another day wasted.

i am unsure if sperm donation is available readily in ireland. i read some things on the internet saying that the sperm is got from denmark and in particular i have been in contact with people from norththumberland clinic in dublin and said it would take aprox 10 days for an apt.   my fear is what will the waiting list for sperm be. will i ever have our little baby.

 im so angry and bewildered ..... x

Hi Pinklady

hope you are keeping well considering... Life is crape at times when we are on this journey. I remember the days of anger, as for the bewilered that was a nightmare. I was lucky with work I told my collegues (i worked in creche so that was hard at times)

As David mentioned Repromed and attending the NISIG meeting is something for you to do. The next is on Sat 21st May in Dublin city centre. You need to ring the supportline to get more info...1890 647 444 Monday - Friday7.15pm - 9.15pm

Also I found the DC Network a great source of information. I found looking at the net overwhelming so much info and were to begin...... The DC Network do " Preparation for DC Parenthood workshops" hope this helps and you can both make the next meeting. It's informal and we have a cuppa and a chat. Hope to see you there.

Cats 

http://www.donor-conception-network.org/

http://www.repromed.ie/index.php