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Hi Galway Gal
I'm in same position - would love to chat to you a little more about how you are feeling - really need to talk to someone who has come from other side, no children but life can be good anyway...
I have alot to be greatful for too, but..... I don't have someone that completely understands how this feels - you do!
Hope to hear from you and hope you're enjoying the lovely sun
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Hey Galway Girl
Frankly, no it doesn't. It doesn't get any easier and no, the pain doesn't go away but you find a way of living and loving your life anyway. We've been married for five years and trying to get pregnant for that long. We've done everything including IVF without success so we're left now just trying to get one with it. I love my husband dearly, we have a great life, good health, family etc and many many blessings that other people don't and we are really lucky. But there is a hole, a pain in our lives that can never be healed and that's a fact we're just going to have to try and come to terms with.
I'm sorry that I can't give you any consolation but you can have a good life despite it all. Feel free to come on here and talk or send a PM, no one knows what this is like. They can say they do, they can sympathise and empathise but NO ONE can understand this unless they are in the same situation.
I would also love to talk to someone who has gone through something similar. We are 5 years married. We had 3 rounds of failed IUI in 2008 and 2 failed rounds of ivf in 2009. within a few weeks of the second failed ivf my husband started having an affair with an old school friend. apparently nothing physical happened but there was a strong emotional connection. i took him back and he swore he would not contact her again. he did. he bought a sim card for a second phone and spoke to her every day, bought her xmas presents, met her at xmas. i took him back. he swore he woudlnt do it again. he did. he set up a new email account and maintained email contact with her. i took him back. that was in march this year. as far as i know he has not been in touch with her since. he has convinced me and counselling has convinced me that he wont do it again. he struggled to cope with ivf not working. he did not want to burden me with his feelings so turned to an old friend who had been thru ivf. but she was willing to take that further, as was he. her marriage was over.
anyhow i am still struggling to come to terms with the fact that we cant have kids and the fact that he has betrayed me so much. it has been getting easier but then overnight we have had 2 pregnancy announcements. i am back there again. wondering if i will ever have kids. i cant contemplate doing ivf again. i dont know where we will be in a years time. i want to spend the rest of my life with the man i married but i know i will never be able to forget what he has done. i want him but i dont want the life i am living. we cant afford to split up. if we stay together and he does this again we are finished. but he still has time to have kids with someone else. in a few years time it will be all over for me. i wont be able to have kids.
i need to come to terms with not being able to have kids. is there anyone that can recommend how i could arrange to talk to someone in a similar boat (re fertility)?
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